How are your holidays going this year? For better or worse, we’re all aware of the cultural norms and expectations around how we celebrate. When your plans (or lack thereof) don’t fit that expectation, feelings of disconnection or being alone might be accentuated. But who needs a “norm” to tell you how to feel? A little time to yourself can be rewarding, fun and the best way to put things into perspective.

Many people pick the holidays as a time for travel and pampering – both great options if you’re celebrating on your own. When I was working as a Program Advisor, many Ranch guests were solo visitors. It’s the perfect place for being as social or solitary as you like – no demands or expectations at all!

A snowy New Years in Lenox can be a great escape, for instance. You might even wind up with a few new friends to ring in the year with. Or if the cold is already getting to you, you could start 2008 with a escape to sunny Tucson. Everything is tailored to your mood and preference – you can make it an all-about-you experience, even choosing to dine alone. And if you feel like it, you can have a meal at the Captain’s Table with other guests and Ranch staff who welcome company and conversation.

As the holiday season winds down, consider this: What if the holidays are really about celebrating your spirit, or enhancing your approach to wellness? What if it's really all about finding the essence of “home” that exists within you? We choose our own norms and set our own goals.

I hope that find what you need and want in 2008 – on your own and in all your relationships!